I don't blame her not wanting to meet all these Coolerheads at a special gathering. Shy or not shy - so many faces, names that aren't names, obsessed non-normal folks all at one time?!?!?!!!
I've got to get under the blankets here pretty quick.
Kids -- I'm sure we'll be getting to know her soon enough. And wherever you decide to do the actual wedding, it will be just fine because it's the way you want it to be.
There'll be plenty of time to meet her and get to know here down the road I'm sure.
Terry, I love that with us, for most you don't introduce them by actual name, but by their screen name here. I know I've talked about some of you, and she's seen pictures of you. She'll be here in a few years supporting me. She's wonderful. I'm so happy to have her.
Green, if it followed the hunt, would I be getting re-married there in a few years to her too? ;)
A few more hours for this duuuuuuuude! Buzz just started kicking in. Gonna put in the movie XXX and see if Vin D-suk lives up to his hype. Later CC peeps
What do I want to do? Nothing? Get kind'a cleaned up, take a book and head to Brine's for their brunch - not the best, but pretty dog-gone cheap - and have some chow with Bloody Mary's, coffee and a good book? Ittiz a GORGEOUS day out there... The river view would bee pretty...
Can you get a too-fer? Both for one application fee?
It looks like you can, but I'm not sure.
THX, you gotta get that Posse Person to see The Light!
No, It's nothing against us. She's just more comfortable with them. Would you switch over to the Puck Posse? Heck no! The people you know and love are here. Same thing with her with the Puck Posse.
Well... Paul works at 3:00 today. I'll run the URL's over there and think give him one o'my buttons from this year. I can always get more from Mom. Maybee I'll give him all five... I can't part with MY GREEN ONE!!! :D
Think will head to the bookstore for Millett's most recent paperback, then to Brine's.
I see we disagree on more than one thing. I am not throwing anything at you Ares-just shaking my head at your aptitude at what you think is an 'ok' thing to do cause of what you see the male society around you showing you what they think is ok when its NOT!
that is a pretty good check mark twords the 50/50 divorce rate. being led astray by just a glance that can lead to accepting that its ok to look more often and later in the relationship get worse.
You say 'its only a look honey, your way better looking than her' -than why the hell don't you look at your wife/girlfriend more than the woman who walks on by. or tell her more often how she looks good than just during those times you get caught looking elsewhere.
You need to care/respect your significant other and not be as selfish about how it feels to you to look.
You say 'its only a look honey, your way better looking than her'
Well there's your problem right there. The relationship shouldn't be based on the premise that the guy is only with the woman because he considers her the most physically attractive woman he knows. If that were the case, then he would indeed consider leaving her if he came across another woman that was more attractive. And in that case it would make sense that a woman would freak out that he was even looking at other women.
But if a guy is with a woman because he is attracted to her, and because he likes being around her, and because he likes the way she makes him feel about himself, and because he is comfortable with her, and because they have shared so much in life that no one else can hope to understand him the way she does, that's not going to be threatened by a mere look.
AW- No matter how strong the relationship is or the basis of the marriage--that is the 'typical' answer given of a man after caught looking. - not that the relationship is ONLY based on physical appearance- that I did not say.
Well I just disagree with the notion that a woman should feel threatened if a guy looks at another woman. There's a difference between saying, "She's pretty" and saying "Hmmmm, I'd like to have sex with her." If the guy is thinking the second thing, then there's a problem, and it isn't just the looking.
If I were "caught" looking, I wouldn't say "You're way prettier than her." I'd say, "Well she may be pretty, but you're the one I love." Because that would always be true, and in my mind that is what matters.
It depends too on how blatant it is. Is it something that just catches their eye and the look lingers because they find it a beatiful sight, or are they making a big deal about twisting their heads all the way around as she walks by in blatant disregard for the person at their side?
I hate it when a guy says..."well, even though she's pretty, she's probly not that smart". and to think that a man could even look at a woman and think 'pretty' without thinking sex is very hard to believe.
and your ..."Well she may be pretty, but you're the one I love."what a LINE! of crap- uuuuuhhhh give me a break! , "your the one I love" eh? thats the same as saying "Well she may be pretty, but I love your ugly ass"!
Men don't talk much but when they do they don't usually seam to think first---and think about taking 2 steps ahead not just the typical 1 in a clue. as in J shoulda knew before he said 'I looked good with makeup' that it was saying 'I looked bad without it'. Cause then he could have changed what he was gonna say to "you look nice today" and could say that MORE OFTEN instead of just the day I have make-up on. and he wouldnt get himself into trouble-oh, he also could say nothing since we arnt dating but he could say something because we are friends.
women do like compliments FREQUENTLY! once a month or everyother month just doesnt cut it! you wonder why we get upset at a glance at another woman or twist something that you've said? It's probly cause the man is not complimenting the woman enough! Like everyday!
and Valentines day is nice and all but try sending a card or flowers on a 'just because' day. Maybe in the middle of August. or even once a month!
aaaw David? your gone...I was enjoying the debate.
Cluemaster-go get your wife some flowers before Valentines day and also on Valentines day- that will surprise her to think you thought of her twice :) what is her favorite -cause Mark seams to like to get me the ones he likes. He says "if I am gonna spend this kind of money than I am getting the most popular roses'(the ones that are big budded-rarely open right) -something like that anyway. I personally like 'baby roses' red and white mixture of 2 dozen instead of those big ugly rosebuds that never open! He thinks flower petals on the bed or floor is corny--guess what guys-it may be corny to you but when you dont do it -it makes us women find you guys selfish to not go out of your way to bring a smile to our face.
and that is on many issues. Just cause the guy doesnt want to do it. we women usually adjust our lives around you men (giving the man the best cut of meat or best plate of food for dinner taking the less for herself) -COME ON WOMEN OUT THERE _TELL THESE GUYS WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM...I love that the men say.."well, I work all day" ---and a woman doesn't? so the least you can do is tell us we look nice or the house looks nice or dinner was good even if it wasnt- but not just once in a long while-but alot!
Cause then he could have changed what he was gonna say to "you look nice today"
Which is to say you look crappy every other day?
One day when I worked at the cable company this guy who had had long hair came into work after having gotten it cut short. All the women were making a big deal about how great he looked, but he didn't really seem to be taking the attention very well. Then I said something to him like, "So I guess if they think you look so great now, they must have thought you looked pretty bad before." and he was like "Exactly!" He didn't really want to cut his hair, it was something he had to do for something and all the compliments he was getting were really insults towards his preferred appearance.
As for the rest of this argument, I don't even really understand why you're making such a big deal out of it. There can't be all that many women in the world who are more attractive than you where it would even come up that often.
and you tell me often how you feel about me and that is very very sweet wether you feel that way or not. You still always find a wonderful way of telling me. :)
I don't like Como, Kids. Twice there in three years? Sucks. BIG ASS TIME, as The Klownz would say (or something like that).
But for a 'Head? Getting married? Oh, GOSH! Would be there in a heart beat! Would be so way COOLER and appropriate! :D
I don't blame her not wanting to meet all these Coolerheads at a special gathering. Shy or not shy - so many faces, names that aren't names, obsessed non-normal folks all at one time?!?!?!!!
I've got to get under the blankets here pretty quick.
Kids -- I'm sure we'll be getting to know her soon enough. And wherever you decide to do the actual wedding, it will be just fine because it's the way you want it to be.
There'll be plenty of time to meet her and get to know here down the road I'm sure.
Goodnight and SCD's!
But, Ter... What's a wedding reception? Just what you described! LOL!!!
SCD's and MCL, Mom!!!!
Night *MOM*
Terry, I love that with us, for most you don't introduce them by actual name, but by their screen name here. I know I've talked about some of you, and she's seen pictures of you. She'll be here in a few years supporting me. She's wonderful. I'm so happy to have her.
Green, if it followed the hunt, would I be getting re-married there in a few years to her too? ;)
What's a wedding reception? Just what you described!
Well, except for the names that aren't names, and the obsessed non-normal part.
A reception would be for both the bride and groom - not just a special gathering to meet the future Mrs. Kids.
Goodnight Mom! SCDs and MCL to you and yours.
Kids - I just love how you're so in love. It fits you.
I'm going to toddle here too. Need to have enough sleep so I don't fall asleep driving back tomorrow.
SCDs and MCL to all and to all a goodnight!
I, too, am gonna toddle. Hate leaving good company - the BEST company... But... Ittiz bedtime for this Bozo...
Many hugs, Much Cooler Love... And way way neato Cooler Dreams to All!!! :D
finally we've got something we disagree on.
I think it might be a man/woman thing but not positive. I have Playboy mags that were bought by my Mrs. so I'm not quite sure.
A few more hours for this duuuuuuuude! Buzz just started kicking in. Gonna put in the movie XXX and see if Vin D-suk lives up to his hype. Later CC peeps
She only reads the articles though, right?
Hahaha... once again... ALLLL BYYYYYYY MYYYYYYYY SEYYYYYYHEYYYYEEELLLFFF!!!!!
What do I want to do? Nothing? Get kind'a cleaned up, take a book and head to Brine's for their brunch - not the best, but pretty dog-gone cheap - and have some chow with Bloody Mary's, coffee and a good book? Ittiz a GORGEOUS day out there... The river view would bee pretty...
Decisions, decisions, decisions...
And by the way, Good Marnin', 'Heads!
green 2/8/03 8:10pm
Way Cooler, Green!
I stumbled upon two hunters at work this year. One of which is part of the Puck Posse.
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Regarding the domain stuff......
Has anyone considered trademarking "Cooler Crew" or "Coolerheads"?
It costs $335 for the the application: http://www.uspto.gov/teas/
Marnin', Sam!
Can you get a too-fer? Both for one application fee?
THX, you gotta get that Posse Person to see The Light!
THX, can you write here the exact URLs for here and our web site? I want to copy them and take them to Paul.
Can you get a too-fer? Both for one application fee?
It looks like you can, but I'm not sure.
THX, you gotta get that Posse Person to see The Light!
No, It's nothing against us. She's just more comfortable with them. Would you switch over to the Puck Posse? Heck no! The people you know and love are here. Same thing with her with the Puck Posse.
Aaahhh! The voice of logic. Never thought o'that. Xcellent point.
Green, you can use either of these. The first is the actual URL the second is a cool little tool that converts long urls to "Tiny URL's".
http://www.tinyurl.com/41cb
Couldn't find "Cooler Crew" or "Coolerhead" as being registered.
http://tess.uspto.gov/bin/gate.exe?f=tess&state=8mfe8d.1.1
Well... Paul works at 3:00 today. I'll run the URL's over there and think give him one o'my buttons from this year. I can always get more from Mom. Maybee I'll give him all five... I can't part with MY GREEN ONE!!! :D
Think will head to the bookstore for Millett's most recent paperback, then to Brine's.
now see, me2. there's a woman you could learn something from.
:: ducks ::
I see we disagree on more than one thing. I am not throwing anything at you Ares-just shaking my head at your aptitude at what you think is an 'ok' thing to do cause of what you see the male society around you showing you what they think is ok when its NOT!
that is a pretty good check mark twords the 50/50 divorce rate.
being led astray by just a glance that can lead to accepting that its ok to look more often and later in the relationship get worse.
You say 'its only a look honey, your way better looking than her' -than why the hell don't you look at your wife/girlfriend more than the woman who walks on by. or tell her more often how she looks good than just during those times you get caught looking elsewhere.
You need to care/respect your significant other and not be as selfish about how it feels to you to look.
uggggh. i can't even argue with that.
Millett wrote this year's clues. I'll bet my life on it. After just one page and like three hysterical footnotes, I was even further convinced.
uggggh. i can't even argue with that.
I can.
You say 'its only a look honey, your way better looking than her'
Well there's your problem right there. The relationship shouldn't be based on the premise that the guy is only with the woman because he considers her the most physically attractive woman he knows. If that were the case, then he would indeed consider leaving her if he came across another woman that was more attractive. And in that case it would make sense that a woman would freak out that he was even looking at other women.
But if a guy is with a woman because he is attracted to her, and because he likes being around her, and because he likes the way she makes him feel about himself, and because he is comfortable with her, and because they have shared so much in life that no one else can hope to understand him the way she does, that's not going to be threatened by a mere look.
I am totally confused!
i can argue with it too, aw. but not in any way that's gonna change her mind given how she wrote what she did. so i won't.
Personally I'm less opposed to hopeless arguments.
AW- No matter how strong the relationship is or the basis of the marriage--that is the 'typical' answer given of a man after caught looking. - not that the relationship is ONLY based on physical appearance- that I did not say.
that's not going to be threatened by a mere look.
the whole relationship may not be threatened at that moment as a whole- but if it continued time after time IT IS THREATENING.
and... it just plain HURTS- bottom line!
so why make your loved one feel that tug at her heart :(
when you should be giving her butterflies
Well I just disagree with the notion that a woman should feel threatened if a guy looks at another woman. There's a difference between saying, "She's pretty" and saying "Hmmmm, I'd like to have sex with her." If the guy is thinking the second thing, then there's a problem, and it isn't just the looking.
If I were "caught" looking, I wouldn't say "You're way prettier than her." I'd say, "Well she may be pretty, but you're the one I love." Because that would always be true, and in my mind that is what matters.
It depends too on how blatant it is. Is it something that just catches their eye and the look lingers because they find it a beatiful sight, or are they making a big deal about twisting their heads all the way around as she walks by in blatant disregard for the person at their side?
I hate it when a guy says..."well, even though she's pretty, she's probly not that smart".
and to think that a man could even look at a woman and think 'pretty' without thinking sex is very hard to believe.
and your ..."Well she may be pretty, but you're the one I love."what a LINE! of crap- uuuuuhhhh give me a break! , "your the one I love" eh? thats the same as saying "Well she may be pretty, but I love your ugly ass"!
Ares comment the other day at the Cooler Re-hash ...something like "you look good in make-up" ---tells me I look awful without it! geeesh!
Men don't talk much but when they do they don't usually seam to think first---and think about taking 2 steps ahead not just the typical 1 in a clue. as in J shoulda knew before he said 'I looked good with makeup' that it was saying 'I looked bad without it'. Cause then he could have changed what he was gonna say to "you look nice today" and could say that MORE OFTEN instead of just the day I have make-up on. and he wouldnt get himself into trouble-oh, he also could say nothing since we arnt dating but he could say something because we are friends.
we never do take that second step in thinking do we?
women do like compliments FREQUENTLY!
once a month or everyother month just doesnt cut it!
you wonder why we get upset at a glance at another woman or twist something that you've said? It's probly cause the man is not complimenting the woman enough! Like everyday!
and Valentines day is nice and all but try sending a card or flowers on a 'just because' day. Maybe in the middle of August. or even once a month!
:: starts taking notes ::
aaaw David? your gone...I was enjoying the debate.
Cluemaster-go get your wife some flowers before Valentines day and also on Valentines day- that will surprise her to think you thought of her twice :) what is her favorite -cause Mark seams to like to get me the ones he likes. He says "if I am gonna spend this kind of money than I am getting the most popular roses'(the ones that are big budded-rarely open right) -something like that anyway. I personally like 'baby roses' red and white mixture of 2 dozen instead of those big ugly rosebuds that never open! He thinks flower petals on the bed or floor is corny--guess what guys-it may be corny to you but when you dont do it -it makes us women find you guys selfish to not go out of your way to bring a smile to our face.
and that is on many issues. Just cause the guy doesnt want to do it. we women usually adjust our lives around you men (giving the man the best cut of meat or best plate of food for dinner taking the less for herself) -COME ON WOMEN OUT THERE _TELL THESE GUYS WHAT YOU DO FOR THEM...I love that the men say.."well, I work all day" ---and a woman doesn't? so the least you can do is tell us we look nice or the house looks nice or dinner was good even if it wasnt- but not just once in a long while-but alot!
I love that the men say..."well, I work all day" ---and a woman doesn't?
hehehe actually after I reread that sentence I recalled there are many unemployed in the Invitational. But it is pretty typical.
ok, now getting you flowers he likes instead of what you like is just plain wrong.
Cause then he could have changed what he was gonna say to "you look nice today"
Which is to say you look crappy every other day?
One day when I worked at the cable company this guy who had had long hair came into work after having gotten it cut short. All the women were making a big deal about how great he looked, but he didn't really seem to be taking the attention very well. Then I said something to him like, "So I guess if they think you look so great now, they must have thought you looked pretty bad before." and he was like "Exactly!" He didn't really want to cut his hair, it was something he had to do for something and all the compliments he was getting were really insults towards his preferred appearance.
As for the rest of this argument, I don't even really understand why you're making such a big deal out of it. There can't be all that many women in the world who are more attractive than you where it would even come up that often.
Oh boy.
Cause then he could have changed what he was gonna say to "you look nice today"
Which is to say you look crappy every other day?
I also posted after that comment though that it should be said often so it really means something. If its said once in a while it means nothing.
and you tell me often how you feel about me and that is very very sweet wether you feel that way or not. You still always find a wonderful way of telling me. :)