Shoot the Breeze With the Cooler Crew - Peoplesforum Edition

mornin all hope every thing is well with all.

for the most part, digger.

Hey LL? arn't you in Como/north end somewhere? Where will you possibly be moving to? Little Canada or further out?

we are on the east side, right on the border of maplewood. the place were looking at is out in cottage grove, It's really nice but I'm not getting my hopes up, I have a feeling the financing isn't gonna go through :(

Truly sad news from TV land. :-(

http://msnbc.com/news/878116.asp?0cv=CB2

mornin' sam.

Goodmorning

I always liked Mr. Rogers. RIP.

well chris comes home on march 10th, just talked to his p/o today, they are trying to get him set up with a mentor, I hope they find a good one cuz he's not a very trusting kid and it will take alot for him to bond with this person. just got another court date in the mail, he has to go 2 day's after he gets home! hee hee! that'll teach him! :)

Make him go to Mr Rogers funeral- make him think about being a kid again.

well he just had 2 months to think about it and hopefully that was enough. He's dealing with alot of ill feelings for his dad right now and I think that this is where all of this shit is stemming from, if his dad would even attempt to act like he cares about him alot of this wouldn't be happening.

Proof that 2 parents are needed in a family.

Are you enjoying tonight then? ;) I hope

yeah, having a pretty good night here, looking forward to seeing some changes in him ( I hope!) when I visit him up there he really sounds like he wants things to be better, but then again he is really good at lying when he wants to be, we will find out soon!

Sorry I missed ya Reg, BBL

Yo... how is that proof that 2 parents are needed in a family? My parents divorced back when I was in kindergarten, and I dont even remember when my dad lived with us, even though my sister always tells me that it sucked ass.... I only got to see my dad basically on the weekends, and if I decided to take off with my bike for a long ass time, but it wasnt still like I had 2 parents, since I never actually talked to my dad about anything.... that is.. until I moved in here a couple years ago... thats basically when he started acting more like my "dad".. although he still acts like a lil kid...

anyhow... you dont absolutely need to have 2 parents around in order to turn out fine and good.... I mean.. yeah... I have my fucked up problems too... but come on.. I dont blame that on only 1 parent being there for me.

Not all kids turn out bad from a one parent home but with out a dual parentship(doesn't necessarily have to be father/mother) there is a missing support that is found for the parents.

I think the problem is more that his dad wasthere up until about 6 months ago and then just dropped out of his life when he started getting into trouble. I grew up in a divorced family too and turned out ok, I think it just depends on the kid and the situation, all kids are different and deal with life differently.I think the reason his dad isn't around is because of his new wife, he recently married and all of a sudden she started acting like chris wasn't a part of their family, she has 3 kids of her own plus one with chris's dad. she wouldn't allow chris to even be in the house unless his dad was home and if we dropped him off before that he had to wait outside. she is a B*%#ch from hell!

Good Morning!

It's Finally Friday!!!!!

LL - I agree. The issue seems to be in his feeling rejected by his father - not the divorce. In some instances, a kid who isn't getting the attention they really want will start doing things that are wrong in order to get any kind of attention at all...good or bad. When one bad thing doesn't raise the attention level, that behavior can escalate always attempting some sort of attention. Of course once you get into inappropriate behavior, it can get to be a habit that is hard to break.

From the sounds of how things are going with his dad, helping Chris deal with his feelings of rejection and might be part of the answer.

That is the next step terry, they are getting him set up with a mentor when he comes home, someone in the arts I guess cuz that's what he really loves to do. hopefully that will help with his problem.

mornin' ralph. happy friday.

I know this isn't the joke thread, but I got this yesterday....

A business man got on an elevator in a building. When he entered the
elevator, there was a blonde already inside and she greeted him by saying,"T-G-I-F."

He smiled at her and replied, "S-H-I-T."
She looked at him, puzzled, and said, "T-G-I-F" again.

He acknowledged her remark again by answering, "S-H-I-T."

The blonde was trying to be friendly, so she smiled her biggest smile and said as sweetly as possibly, "T-G-I-F" another time.

The man smiled back to her and once again replied with a quizzical
expression, "S-H-I-T."

The blonde finally decided to explain things, and this time she said,
"T-G-I-F. It means Thank Goodness It's Friday.' Get it?"

The man answered, "S-H-I-T......Sorry, Honey, It's Thursday."

funny ATH!

This 'parent' topic would be good around the firepit say...at COMO! or Terrys cabin :)

I didn't say the parents had to be married just that it is important that there are 2 parental figures -each 'sex' has much to share and teach a child - When you watch your kids grow up with a mom and a dad you can see the things they learn and the balance it brings.

I saw things differently before I had kids...like it wasn't a big deal-I can raise them on my own-WoW was I wrong and young! Definately everyone is different - My parents divorced when I turned 18 and my sister was 14. We had both our parents still in our lives but boy did my sister and I react differently to it. I have asked my kids about, if dad and I ever split up, and they absolutely say no! Just in their tone -it would crush them.

I don't know anyone who has the 'perfect' family-every single person has a 'family secret'

- My parents divorced when I turned 18

cut the child support in half, eh ?

"Excuse me, Sir. Could you take my picture with the Mermaid? I need it for an internet Scavenger Hunt."

"Are you serious?"

My opinion has always been that happy parents who are split up make better role models than miserable parents who stay together just for the kids. I grew up in the latter.

Thats the kick-I was suprised how well my parents got along after the divorce - they stayed great friends - mom always stayed dad's true love :)

I have asked my kids about, if dad and I ever split up, and they absolutely say no! Just in their tone -it would crush them.

Of course kids are going to say that.

Well, I thought my parents would had been better off seperated so I said it didn't matter to me if they divorced or not. My parents still celebrated ALL holidays together as a family even though divorced.

And my kids always say 'Sooooo' to everything- so I expected a 'they didn't care' attitude-I got the opposite.

I agree too, that parents that get along not married would be more effective than married and not getting along.

does anyone else have at&t broad band? my fonts are so huge since they switched to conquest! I hate it! is there anyway to change it back???

ok, done! thank god! HI DAVE!

So after several days of sleeping on the couch to avoid catching Ink's cold...I got one anyways. Didn't help that my office mate was there coughing and sneezing all week.

We went north last night and came back to the cities late this afternoon. Almost no snow left up there - in fact it seemed less than what we have here.

I had figured on doing some hunting tomorrow if I could just figure out the clues - but not the way I'm feeling right now.

Ares - you still listing?

LL - I hope a fantastic mentor is found for Chris. It's probably one of the more important things to help keep kids on the right track.

nope, terry. i'm standing upright. finally. i can still feel it though if i try to lift something heavy. needless to say, i'll not be joining my brother on his skiing trip to spirit mountain tomorrow.

Sorry to hear you won't be going skiing. I know how much you enjoy those trips. At least it's getting better.

I'm heading for bed. If I'm awake, I'll check back for tonight's clue.

its not that i'm not going because i hurt. i'm not going because i'm just getting better and don't want to further get hurt :)

I figured that, ares. Smarter this way...but maybe not as much fun.

Smarter sucks

My parents still celebrated ALL holidays together as a family even though divorced.

Did your parents remarry? What did their new spouses think of that?

My dad passed away August 21, 1994
my mom remarried June 14, 1996 (to a man who treats her like crap but she is now on disability and 'stays with him', I am sure, to not be lonely) :(

I used to think that my parents were miserable together and should be divorced, that they only stayed together for "the kids". They had their troubles and hard times, but they always worked it through and stuck it out. As the kids have all moved out and they've had time to re-connect with themselves as "people" and not "parents". I can see how much they really do love eachother, and if they did stay together for any reasons, it was their own and not because of "the kids"