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It is so heartbreaking to hear all this sad news. But keep in mind that you are going to celebrate your birthday all weekend long with friends who love and care about you!! :sheepish: (((hugs girlfriend)))
Sorry to hear that Kat, I'll be praying for you and your family.
Irritate: People that take you for granted, and then, when you make an unintentional, honest mistake, make you feel guilty while telling you how you have to improve yourself. To quote old Soucheray (still think he's the cluewriter) B as in B, S, as in S...
This whole sensation lately around this movie/book "Hunger Games". I read the synopsis and, either I didn't read it correctly, or the whole premise of the story sounds frankly boring (which is strange, because I typically tend to like stories about a dystopian future). I imagine along the same lines as the twilight series.
People using any excuse they can for their bad moods.
I haven't had a bad mood in years.. decades probably. Why? Because I choose not to have them. Nothing in life is worth getting that upset over. Doesn't anyone feel even slightly embarrassed after they toss something in a fit of rage? How about after they throw a fit when they don't get their way?
sigh* I just feel more alone these days, like there's no one else on the planet that can act rationally for more than a few months time. I'm sure I exaggerate, but it really takes a toll on me having to deal with people like that, and forgive them after they've had their fits, blown off whatever "steam" they feel the need to.
I have waaaaay too many single women as Facebook friends. Not a single day goes by without someone posting a 'bitchy' man-hating cartoon or a poofy 'I Love the WHOLE World' statement.
I guess the married ladies have someone at home to unleash their frustrations on, because I just don't see it in Facebook. Thank God.
Thanks, not really my style though. Probably my real problem, I don't have an outlet for stress. I guess I just post in here, lol. Or I just try to do something positive. I've seen enough things destroyed in my life, just can't bring myself to break anything to feel better (even if I hear it works wonders).
Ever bit the inside of your lip hard, so it swells up and gets sore; and basically gets bit again a hundred times because you don't think about it when you eat - until you accidentally chomp it again?
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company Â… a church Â… a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude Â… I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me, and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you Â… we are in charge of our Attitudes
Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."
"Yeah, right, but it's not always that easy," I protested.
"Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line is that it's your choice how you live life." I reflected on what Jerry said.
Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business ... he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.
"The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door," Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, ‘He's a dead man.' I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked.
"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me," said Jerry. "She asked if I was allergic to anything. Yes," I replied. "The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled ... Bullets!"
Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.
Touche' That's what I'm working on as I type this. And the best thing is to do is try to change any negative forces that make obtaining a positive attitude a chore. And if I can't, then remove myself from the situation altogether.
CM - I know what its like to be so affected by others that it makes you crazy. I lived like that with my Dad for many years.
Luckily my Mom made my sister and I go to Ala-Teens. The lessons learned there have carried me through my life a stronger, more determined person to never let anyone cause me that pain ever again.
After some years, I did have a relationship again with my dad, but it was on my terms and if he blew it, he knew where the door was. I only needed to show him the door once. After that, he apologized and followed my rules for the relationship.
Sometimes it means walking away. Other times it means confrontation. Sometimes it means walking away after a confrontation. Other times it means simply standing up and blocking that person or situation from harming you. Sometimes it means changing the path you're on to find a better, higher road.
It is not easy, but it can be done...and on the other side you will feel stronger not just emotionally, but physically as well.
Exactly, terry. And it's even harderif its family. I know that cluey knows that I haven't had anything to do with my parents or sister for going on 6 years now. This was after about a 6 month reconciliation from another instance of breaking the rules so to speak. And I tell ya, not having to deal with not being treated as an equal with my siblings by my parents has been an incredible stress reliever (so much so that in a family ridden with high blood pressure, when I was in at the doc in pain with a fever and other issues in February, my bp was 110/56. I can live with that. And unlike your dad, my parents and sister apparently have no desire to play by my rules so I refuse to let them play the game.
On the other hand, I called my grandma and aunt on Sunday to confirm Easter dinner and my brothers wife answered the phone. She actually asked me if I was interested in meeting my nephew when I was in the neighborhood sometime. Well see what happens there.
It is so empowering to be able to walk away from the craziness. I too have a couple sisters that won't play by the rules. I haven't seen either of them for several years and it's a blessing. My attitude is much better than when listening to their craziness.
I just realized I typed body boss. I used that on my kids and my day care kids for years. I used to say that to them when there were better choices to be made.
I bookmark very few posts but this is now happily positioned at the top of my list. If I am to survive any further I need to control what I put into my body, mind and soul. And if it's toxic in any way I need to rid that poison by any means possible. I made the mistake by just putting up with it when I was working dt mpls under a degrading slug of a human. That slug caused my heart to deteriorate. While there are obvious genetic issues that caused it I don't think I'd ever needed to go through any of that shit if it wasn't for that added work stress on my already stressed mind at the time. I feel it tonight as I did years ago. But now I'm much wiser. I need to take that stress and either harness it and turn it into energy or toss it aside and let it burn out elsewhere.
Either way your inspirational words are what keeps me going and paying the dues every year. You can't buy wisdom like this. TY LU TV! :cool:
Big not so subtle hint - sweat it out. Exercise does so much to purge all kinds of stress. Just get up and get moving - and keep doing it on a regular basis. It does not matter how or what you do - just get moving and keep moving for an hour or two a few days a week. Persistence without worrying/thinking about it is key. Change is never noticeable immediately or even day-to-day - but give it a month or so and what changes you see WILL shock you.
Very well said md, and tv for that matter. I was just noticing the other day that my pants are getting too big (and I'll spare the peanut gallery the comments and jus say it's around my waist, not down there). My "secret"? The skyways. Amazing how that little movement every day starts to pay off in a healthy way. And yes, controlling what toxicity you put into your body helps too.
Irritates: Semi Trucks passing each other at only 65.5 miles per hour on the freeway so it takes about four miles for the whole maneuver. Once doesn't bother me; but it happened three times this morning. I seriously considered passing on the shoulder for the first time in my life.
well, either that or a job in a state with a 70 mph speed limit. so that they can pass each other at 70.5mph and cut the time down to about 3:40 :smile:
Irritate: People that take you for granted, and then, when you make an unintentional, honest mistake, make you feel guilty while telling you how you have to improve yourself. To quote old Soucheray (still think he's the cluewriter) B as in B, S, as in S...
kc. clueless joey was not the cluewriter this year. i know this for a fact :smile:
This Guy? :eek:
I haven't had a bad mood in years.. decades probably. Why? Because I choose not to have them. Nothing in life is worth getting that upset over. Doesn't anyone feel even slightly embarrassed after they toss something in a fit of rage? How about after they throw a fit when they don't get their way?
I guess the married ladies have someone at home to unleash their frustrations on, because I just don't see it in Facebook. Thank God.